<hr>Indeed, the whole scene made me long to see Carmela as Melfi's patient even more than Tony (for the time being, anyway!)<hr></blockquote>
FOMW, I agree, but for a different reason than what you found most interesting.
I am only 24, so maybe its easier for me to relate to Meadow than to Carm, Tony, or even Chris. What I found ABSOLUTELY RIVETING about the Carmela session was the discussion of AJ and Meadow.
Carm talks about how she made her choices, either "knowing" about what Tony is, or "because" of what he is. But she also is cognizant that Meadow and AJ did not have any choice in who they were born to.
I found myself sympathizing heavily with Carm in terms of AJ and Meadow. The sins of the father are often imputed to the kids. IF Tony is killed, or indicted and arrested, AJ and Meadow may face not only knowing that their dad had some shady dealings and was in the mafia, but that he has personally murdered people, ordered people killed, and been involved in every other crime that can be linked to him (either as a matter of sufficient evidence for trial or as matters of news after his possible death).
My feelings are split two ways. One, I feel that Carmela would suffer tremendous guilt if all of this came to light, and it fell on AJ and Meadow to carry the burden.
Second, I feel especially for Meadow, but for AJ as well if they become exposed to the full depth of Tony's crimes. I don't know how one could even begin to reconcile the Tony they know with the Tony we do, especially in regards to Jackie Jr. I personally believe that Meadow was rebelling against her father, but has managed to turn a blind eye to her insincere allegations that Jackie Jr.'s death was caused by the mafia. I think even if she was sincere about it, her blame would not extend to her own father.
At any rate, this therapy session really made me think hard about AJ and Meadow and where they stand in, to use Melfi's word, "complicity" to Tony's crimes. It also set me thinking about Tony and Carmela's roles in making their kids a party to this lifestyle, especially since I think no one could assert that Tony does not love his immediate family to the very depths of his soul.
THAT element of the Carmela therapy session was what really got me thinking, and had me on the edge of my seat.
EDIT: I know this is tangential to this thread, but it seems like the best place to put it. Given my comments above on AJ, in a second viewing I also feel that the lines of knowledge about how involved everyone in the immediate family are VERY blurred. When Carm asks AJ if he brought a sweater from home, he gets really pissed off. He says "I can be a messenger boy but I can deal with the larger issues? Like you didn't put them up to it." I believe he was referring to Bobby and Chris talking to him about trying to buy a gun.
I think its pretty obvious that Carm doesn't know about AJ trying to buy a gun, and that if she had known about it she would have flipped out. It goes to show the lines of demarcation between the mafia family and Tony's actual family, but I think this sort of ignorance spread all around has tremendous ramifications for everyone involved. How much greater would the guilt we saw Carm exhibit with Melfi be if she knew that Tony's mafia life was now leading her son to try to buy a gun and contemplate committing murder???
</p>Edited by: <A HREF=http://p098.ezboard.com/bthechaselounge ... dCoffee</A> at: 3/27/06 1:52 pm